Also: here's the thing to remember here. While you are in this relationship, you are not in control of it. He's got the steering wheel, he's driving all over the road, and he's sure as hell not asking you for directions. He has the power.

The only power that you unequivocably have in this relationship is to leave. He's going to try to take that power away from you, too, by making you question your own judgement and question your own instincts and make you think you're treating him horribly.

Because spending time with him was so important that he'd never bother setting it up himself.

Because you were so important to him that he'd never ask if there was anything *he* could do for *you*.

Because he loved you so much he would go out to bad-mouth you to other women.

Because he needed you so much that he'd spend lots of quality time ignoring your presence

Because he cared so much about your relationship that he blamed all of its problems on you.

Yeah, it's sure gonna hurt him that you're gone. Sheesh. You deserve better, darlin'.