It sounds as if he's not kind to you, and even when everything else in a relationship is sour, we deserve kindness.
I think that qowf perhaps has it best. If you drop him, he will begin to be solicitous in order to suck you in again because it sounds rather as though he needs someone to blame for things not going right in his life and he's decided that it's going to be you. If you're not there, it starts to be his responsibility and that's not going to feel good for him.
Frankly, sod his dogs. They might be nice dogs but they're his problem. If you refuse to do it, he is going to call you passive-aggressive and whiny because that's what he has to make you in order to understand why his life is the way it is. It has very little to do with your actual actions in reality
I've only seen this through your LJ entries but I don't think you can help him and it doesn't sound like he's willing to help you. And you deserve kindness.
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It sounds as if he's not kind to you, and even when everything else in a relationship is sour, we deserve kindness.
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Frankly, sod his dogs. They might be nice dogs but they're his problem. If you refuse to do it, he is going to call you passive-aggressive and whiny because that's what he has to make you in order to understand why his life is the way it is. It has very little to do with your actual actions in reality
I've only seen this through your LJ entries but I don't think you can help him and it doesn't sound like he's willing to help you. And you deserve kindness.